2-Islam doesn't permit PHYSICAL CONTACT with the opposite sex such as through shaking of hands.
3-Keep conversation focused, short, & to the point. Intimate, suggestive, or recreational conversations are NOT well-received.
4-During the conversation, STARING or looking directly at the Muslim woman's face may make her feel uncomfortable.
5-NEVER ask a Muslim female for a date, or offer any type of liquor. This's also a religious mandate.
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People - even many Muslims - put so much emphasis on the outside, the physical, rather than the inside the spiritual. As Crowfoot, one of our Native American teachers said, "From nowhere we came, and into nowhere we go. What is life? It is the flash of a firefly in the night. It is the breath of the buffalo in the wintertime. It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset."
ReplyDeleteAnd as someone wise once said, "A woman's heart should be so lost in the love of God that a man must seek Him (swt) in order to find her."
I could never love a woman who did not love God more than anything, including me.
And a woman who loves God is infinitely beautiful to me, no matter what her evanescent outer appearance, and a woman who does not love God bears no appeal for me whatsoever.
In our Native American tradition, we are taught to always show the utmost respect to woman - even to women who it may be said don't deserve it, for perhaps you will inspire them to seek once again to deserve it! Of course what our dear blogster says above is wise counsel. By looking away from the outside, do we not see more clearly the beauty of the heart and soul?
Alhamdulilah!
Islam is about securing women the utmost respect and emotional security.
ReplyDeleteI profoundly respect the barries for they are reflective of an understanding of the psychology of both males and females and the barries that should demarcate the interactions taking place.
I will never cease wishing you what can surpass your expectations for a satisfying life :).
Thank you for being '' wisely '' committed.
salamunalaikum..
ReplyDeleteMashallah! If every man follows these five commands which are totally in the light of Qur'an and sunnah then the the evil from the muslim societies slowly but steadily disappears one day.
!! Assalam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu !!
ReplyDeleteDear Sister in Islam
Allaah has enjoined marriage, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty”
[al-Noor 24:32]
And it was enjoined by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065; Muslim, 1400.
Salaam, physical contact such as shaking hands is considered to be impermissable, however, there is another view - where this is allowed under specific circumstances. For instance if one was to meet someone in an official or work capacity and they offer their hand, it can be rude not to accept. In this case there is a view this is allowed. And Allah knows best.
ReplyDeleteYeah .. that happens sometimes ... yet we just try as much as possible to avoid shaking hands with men...
ReplyDeleteاسلام عليكم و الرحمت ا لله وا بركاته
ReplyDeleteI don't think any work obligation or anything allows a man or a women to shake hands. One should have the guts to politely deny and say that it is not allowed in Islam for me to shake hands with a woman/man unless it's a wife/husband.
و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته
ReplyDeleteyou are right
The picture attached with this is of someone I know from a page on FB called MDL - can I ask is it her who has written this or has her picture been stolen and used?
ReplyDeletethe picture was taken from Google after searching in the "images" section ... i don't take pictures from FB !for me, it's no more than a symbolic picture ... if it's proved that this pic belongs to the girl u know, let her contact me through my page on FB & i have no problem replacing it any way.
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